Confidence is the feeling of positive trust in people and situations. Self-confidence is being able to trust our own abilities, therefore, low self-confidence is a lack of such trust in ourselves. This can be affected by how we judge ourselves and our perception of how others judge us.
A person has self-confidence when they know from experience that they have coped successfully with similar situations before. They can draw upon their memories of how they coped and what strategies were useful. They are also able to learn from situations where they did not cope so well and use these to create more effective strategies.
A person with low self-confidence may not have had enough experiences to be able to build a feeling of confidence. They may have had a number of negative experiences which affected their confidence or alternatively they may evaluate past experiences in a negative way. Low self-confidence can also be related to low self-esteem.
If you suffer from low self-confidence you may find yourself unwilling to accept challenges and feeling anxious in social situations. You may also choose to avoid activities in which you feel ‘in the spotlight’ or exposed to the judgement of others.
In counselling, Anna will help you to understand how your low self-confidence affects your life and your relationships. You will be encouraged to consider where your low self-confidence came from and how long it has been there.
Using CBT you will be challenged to evaluate your abilities in all areas of your life and acknowledge those areas in which you succeed. You will be encouraged to find ways to develop your skills and to look for effective ways to evaluate them in the future.
Specific exercises will help you to identify who you compare yourself to and how this affects your confidence.
Anna will help you develop your own strategies to successfully cope with situations where you lack confidence and to put these into practice.